A thoughtful response is one that is free from emotion. OK, excitement in fun and positive situations is fun! But an emotionally charged response can break down communication as quick as a glance. A thoughtful response will almost always build a relationship and lead to understanding and smiles.
“Man’s chiefest treasure is a sparing tongue.”Hesiod, Greek didactic poet (~800 BC)
We’ve all been there…at the cross roads of letting someone know exactly what we’re thinking and sparing our tongues.
I have been reading about mindfulness and there are some great mindfulness practices along sparing the tongue. Part of the mindfulness philosophy is to boost awareness of what is happening in one’s own mind. By taking the time to become more aware of what is happening in our own minds we increase the gap between an emotional impulse and a response.
Buddhists call this recognizing the spark before the flame. When we recognize the spark (the emotional impulse) before the flame (the response) we allow ourselves time to thoughtfully respond. In theory a thoughtful response allows us to spare the tongue. A trigger for incorporating mindfulness into your Spare the Tongue practice is to simply breathe.
When you notice an emotional response buy yourself time to recognize what is happening within you by taking a few deep breaths before you respond.
Today’s Simple Smile Igniter:
Identify your methods for Sparing the Tongue and decide if the above would be of additional assistance. When we can Spare the Tongue and flow with the current life is taking us we live with less regret and more peace.
I would love to hear about other methods you use to Spare the Tongue. Please share them in the comments section of this post. Thank you!