The words you use are a direct reflection of what is happening within you. And the words you use have a direct impact on your conscience and subconscious thoughts. If you are making changes in your life, changing your use of words and phrases is a great place to start and consistently monitor.
I believe this is so important I have broken the list of 12 words from Debbie Friedman’s Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind Program into several blog posts. Every Monday for the next few weeks I am posting about the power of words with a word or phrase to eliminate, why it’s important, and some possible replacements.
This week as we eliminate the words and phrases that do not serve us, let’s consider the use of
This word just sets you up to make an excuse or back out of what you previously stated. Remember the last time you heard someone offer a compliment followed by a “but” and the compliment was lost?
To transition out of using “but” replace it with “and”. There will be times when saying “and” instead of “but” will not make much sense, however it will cause you to pause and remember you are speaking more powerfully. And it will cause you to stop and think about what you are saying instead of simply free flowing into an excuse.
Here is an example:
- I was going to apply for that Merchandising job, but I do not have the qualifications.
- I was going to apply for that Merchandising job, and … I …
Read those statements out loud, can you hear how the first is simply an excuse for doing nothing? Can you hear how the later phrase makes one stop making excuses?
Now it’s your turn…tap the comments link below and please share with me how you are removing “but” so you can stop making excuses and actually get after the goals you have set for yourself.