When it comes to the intentions and motivations of others it is easy (and sometimes necessary) to make assumptions. I’ve done it and I’ve been completely wrong. Others have done it to me and were completely wrong as well.
When we make assumptions we can take either a negative or a positive path.
I think when people take the negative path there is a form of insecurity and protectionism in play. We think the worst and start preparing to not let anyone hurt us, make a fool of us, or take advantage of us. We build our defense, we create a distance, and we harden our hearts. The negative assumption path often leads to a strain on a relationship, even if it is never addressed with the person we’re making assumptions about.
Have you ever been the one on the receiving side of false assumptions? Have you ever been the one trying to figure out what just happened? It can feel like you are stuck in a terrible Twilight Zone situation.
On this day let’s take the path of positive assumption, if an assumption needs to be drawn at all. Today let’s assume the best of intentions for all those we have welcomed into our lives. Today let’s assume we have selected the most wonderful people to join us on our journey in life. Today let’s assume the motivations of those we love and cherish is to love and cherish us in return. Today let’s assume positive motivations and positive intentions and see what happens as a result of giving others the benefit of the doubt.