Check Your Thoughts and Phrases (Use But). What we think and say have a direct impact on how we act. If we think we can or think we can’t, we are correct. Often what we think comes out in our words, and often our surprising words influence our actions. When thinking or speaking about your new habit use the word “but” to transform any negative phrases and thoughts into positive statements that acknowledge your consistent steps towards positive change.
If you find yourself thinking about how difficult your new habit is, change your thoughts by using the word “but” followed by the facts of the situation. For example, “My new habit of going to sleep by 10PM is difficult, but I am consistently going to sleep by 11, which is much earlier than I was last month.”
This works on your thoughts and your verbal words. I actually think it works best on our spoken words. If you keep thinking you will never be able to turn this new habit from a daily forced action to an auto-piloted behavior acknowledge that thought. State that thought out loud then add “but…” and complete the sentence.
It is always best to acknowledge our thoughts and feelings instead of ignoring them or pretending they do not exist. Acknowledge them, thank them for surfacing, then turn them around with a “but…”.
If you are having a difficult time with this just ask for help, I am here to help you. As a matter of fact use me as your “but…” statement.
“My new habit of __________________________ is _________________________ and I feel _______________________, but I have the support of a coach who is helping me stay focused with new habit building tips each day.”
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