Do This For You. In goal setting and habit creation you will experience more immediate and long term success when you do it all for you. This is an area of life where you are the priority. It needs to feel good to you. You need to love it. You will make the change you want with you embrace YOU.
One of the first lessons I learned in habit development was to do it for ME. My first new habit to intentionally develop on this path was to make my bed. Since our house is very small and my bedroom is off the living room and the door between the two is almost always open so the dog can sleep in that door way I thought my daughter would appreciate it if I made my bed each day. After I was well into the development of this new habit I commented to my daughter, “Are you glad I am making my bed every day? Now you do not need to see my unmade bed when you are in the living room.” Her response, “No.” Although I was gaining a lot from my habit building experiment, I chose this habit for my daughter and she did not even notice.
I was a good thing I was quite a way through this experiment and was seeing the benefits and effectiveness of this process, because if I was only doing it for her I would have stopped.
For many of us we can get caught up in doing so many things for some many other people. The really great thing about developing habits is that you can do this all for YOU…and you really should. Consider this a self-care element of your life. Put the effort into you and develop the good habits that improve your life. Most of the time people will not notice the good you are doing, most of the time others are so caught up in their own world or their own perception of you that they will not really notice the little changes that are transforming you until all of the sudden they notice a transformed you.
So if you are doing a habit that is for someone else, pause today and reflect on what this is doing for you. You are developing a good habit that is supporting a bigger goal for YOU. You are discovering your keys to success for YOU. You are developing tenacity, strength of character, and commitment for YOU. You are caring for YOU and making your world a better place for YOU.
Remember when you make you the best you possible you are then able to better care for all those around you. When you fill your proverbial cup then it will run over and positively affect others in your life. But you must take the steps for you first. Consider this new habit practice a step towards filling your cup and creating the best you possible.
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