A compliment is a gift we give another. We acknowledge the blessing others are to us, the qualities that make them great, and reinforce the positive efforts of those around us. Let’s seize the holiday and deliver those much deserved compliments to those we interact with today. Use these tips to turn this barely known holiday into a blessing for you and those who cross your path today.
Be Sincere. The most important part of complimenting is being sincere. Compliments need to come from a place of true appreciation and acknowledgement with no strings or expectations attached. “Thank you for dinner mom. I think your meatloaf is the best!”
Thank you! Saying thank you is certainly a great lead into a heart-felt compliment. Try this sentence structure, “Thank you for (specific event or behavior) you have (impact on you) “. Here is an example, “Thank you for cleaning the house you have really made coming home a blessing.” Another great and so easy compliment that can be used for so many, “Thank you for everything you do. All your efforts are greatly appreciated.”
Personalize. Each compliment needs to be personalized to the receiver. When you know someone you know which traits they are most proud of and what makes them wonderfully unique. Today let those you know well know what you appreciate and admire about them. “That outfit looks so good on you. I love your sense of style.”
Simple Praise. Today notice and verbally appreciate the small things. The smallest things in our lives often have the biggest impact. And what is small for me may be quite big for you. Today let the “atta boys” fly. “Good job cleaning your bedroom.”
Speak Highly of Others. There are situations where you may want to compliment someone, but you do not know them well or you potentially have something to gain from the one you compliment. If you are worried about your compliment coming across as brown-nosing, compliment the individual to others. Chances are that compliment will get back to that person and when it does sincerity will not be questioned. “Jeff is extremely good at organizing information. He has a very efficient way of taking lots of information and narrowing it down to an easy to digest executive summary.”
Share the Good Words You Hear. Share the good things you hear about others with them. They will be sincerely compliment and you will open up a conversation to learn more about that individual. “I heard you are an excellent cook and like to teach people how to cook. Do you specialize is any certain type of cooking?”
Timing is Everything. There are times when someone needs to know immediately that they have done well. Immediately after an adrenalin charged event give reassurance that all has gone well. Even if there were areas for improvement the positive reinforcement right after the event will provide much-needed encouragement. “Good presentation. You presented the info clearly and people were really engaged.”
Open the Conversation. Use a compliment to open a conversation. “I read your article on complimenting people and I like how you turned an obscure holiday into a smile igniter. Where do you get your inspiration?”
Bless Yourself. Complimenting others will not only bring smiles to others but will bring smiles to your face today and everyday. You will be noticing how much others are bringing into your life and the positive impact they are having on you. Giving compliments to others is an expression of gratitude and all expressions of gratitude will heighten your spirits.
Today’s Simple Smile Igniter: A compliment is a gift we give another. We acknowledge the blessing others are to us, the qualities that make them great, and reinforce the positive efforts of those around us. Seize the holiday and deliver those much deserved compliments to those you interact with today. Use these tips to turn this barely known holiday into a blessing for you and those who cross your path today.