“Good habits, which bring our lower passions and appetites under automatic control, leave our natures free to explore the larger experiences of life.”
I blog a lot about habits and creating habits that support your goal attainment, yet I know we often forgo this simple trick of success. Today let’s look at why we choose to ignore what works and instead create a habit of NOT seizing opportunities.
Today let’s look at the 5 Biggest Opportunity Obstacles and Why Some Do NOT Create Lucky Habits
Blurred Vision. When we do not have a clear desired outcome we do not know our goal. It is difficult to create habits that support an unclear goal. It is also difficult to know which opportunities are best for you when your goal in undefined. People identify goals from all sorts of perspectives. A career goal can be defined by the lifestyle the pay and job enables, the job title and status it provides, the skills learned and applied, or your contribution to the company, clients and the employees.
The antidote to a blurred vision is to create a vision that inspires you from a perspective that is true to you. Then align your daily actions and habits to make that vision a reality.
Limiting Beliefs. When it comes to opportunity obstacles limiting beliefs in two forms can stall out our progress. We can hold beliefs
- about success in general or around the success we seek
- around our ability to achieve or deserve success.
Both will prevent us from creating habits that lead us in the direction we truly desire. Limiting beliefs are ideas held by you that limit you from getting what others are able to achieve or bring into their lives. Limiting beliefs often keep us “safe”, but they also keep us unsatisfied and are a form of self-abuse.
The antidote to limiting beliefs is to explore the “what if”. Byron Katie’s Four Questions from her book Loving What Is is my favorite method of identifying and melting beliefs that bind us. The four questions to ask yourself are:
- Is it true?
- Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
- How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
- Who would you be without the thought?
And Turn it around.
If you are unfamiliar with her work and want more information check out the link to Byron Katie’s Four Questions website. I have also attached her One Belief At A Time Worksheet ( onebelief_Eng ) which is an excellent resource for breaking free from beliefs that prevent you from seizing the opportunities presenting themselves to you today.
Not Ready. It is ok to not be ready for an unforeseen opportunity that would create a great change in your life, but it is important to not turn your lack of preparation into procrastination. This is where habits will transform you into one who is prepared for any opportunity that will move you in the direction of your goals. I am willing to bet a buck that if this is an area that is holding you from creating and seizing opportunities there is an area that is also coming to mind that needs your attention. For example, I recently heard of a possible opportunity to work as an expat in a foreign country while advancing my corporate career. Immediately I thought of all the things I would need to do before I temporarily moved abroad and created some habits that would move me in the direction of being available for this potential change. Due to corporate budget decisions that opportunity dissipated, but the thought of being available next time is still fresh in my mind so the new habits will continue.
The antidote to not ready is creating habits what make you available now.
Too Great a Sacrifice. For some there almost always seems to be a cost to an opportunity. Sometimes the perceived sacrifice is minor and sometimes it is major. However, many will create a habit of not seizing opportunities because any sacrifice is just too great. We will not usher opportunities into our lives if we hold tightly to just what is. We need to be open to creating and seizing change that brings us to new areas of our lives.
The antidote to too great a sacrifice is to know and live your values. True opportunities will align with your values and not require a sacrifice that diminishes you. True opportunities will enhance your life not compromise it. Only when we know our values can we usher in true opportunities.
Fear of Success and Failure. Often fear demobilizes us. Many fear success and many fear failure. I blogged about failure recently, if you missed the post you can find it here, F is for Forge thru Failure. Fear of failure is understandable yet failure is nothing to be feared, when we forge through failure we move ahead with increased speed and effectiveness towards success. Yet, why do some have a fear of success? Often success means change, increased expectations, more responsibility, and possibly higher goals and challenges next time around. To some this thought inspires and mobilizes, for some this thought demobilizes.
The antidote to fear of success and failure is to forge through. Forge through one small step at a time. Break it all down into simple consistent steps towards your success. Use habits, simple consistent daily actions, to sneak up on and conquer fear.
H is for Habits. Are you creating the habits that allow you to seize opportunities or are you entrenched in habits that have you passing up opportunities?
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