Forgive & Release: A-Z Blog Challenge: C is for CLOSURE

A sure path to happiness is to forgive and release hurtful feelings.  It is not necessary to forgive and FORGET, but in most cases it is necessary to forgive and release the pain so you can regain your power and live with more smiles in your life.

Closure

There are times when we need to release people.  There are times when the kindest thing we can do for another person is to release them from as much pain as we can.  We need to do this to allow people closure and healing.  There are times when an apology is not necessary and amends are not necessary.  There are times when we know a person is hurting over a situation, but cannot bring themselves to verbalize it or even fully face the reality.  At these times and probably others it is better to allow people closure and healing by forgiving them and releasing the hurt feelings than forcing them to confront their fears and pain.

Hearing the truth heals…African Truth Commission.  After the abolition of apartheid in South Africa the South African Truth and Reconciliation Commission was established.  This was a court like setting where victims of crimes related to human rights violations could give testimony while the perpetrators of these crimes could confess and request amnesty.  One of the three committees was the Reparation and Rehabilitation Committee that was tasked with restoring human dignity and formulating proposals for rehabilitation.  Generally the Commission was considered successful.  There are times when we need to grant amnesty to those who violate us.  It does not mean we allow them the same access and freedoms to harm us again, but in many situations we better serve the world and ourselves by forgiving and releasing so others can heal and lead better lives.

When you know you should do it.  I am not a proponent of doing things just because we “should” do them, however, when it comes to forgiveness I can be swayed.  We never know what another person is truly experiencing and the pain they may put themselves through.  Many, especially those who feel they need to remain strong, will never share their inner unrest.  But I believe there are times when our intuition is telling us that we should or need to do something.  At those times, when our intuition is leading, and we do not and may never have the answers we seek, we need to forgive and release so we can allow closure and healing.

When you’re both probably wrong and someone needs to step up and be the adult.  Sometimes you just need to make the first move so you can both move forward.  If this is done with someone worthy of your time and energy, this move will prove courageous and treasured.  If this is done with someone who is not a “safe” person and unworthy of your time and energy, this move will reveal the limited value of the relationship.  At times like this, if nothing else use this as a life experiment.  Give it a try and see if the person you are with is worthy of future involvement.

Today’s SIMPLE SMILE IGNITER is to be a blessing to the world today.  The world is filled with hurting people and in many situations we can do something to relieve the pain of another.  Today forgive someone who needs to hear they are forgiven so they can heal and move forward in a more productive manner.  Hurt and the lack of forgiveness bind us, when we allow another individual closure we allow them to heal and we release ourselves from the bondage of forgiveness.

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About Jodi Rosenberg

I am a life coach, corporate project manager, and generally happy person who has chosen to express myself through the written word with the intent of making life better for all of us.
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One Response to Forgive & Release: A-Z Blog Challenge: C is for CLOSURE

  1. maria says:

    Hi Jodi, My husband is in a similar profession and we both try to be generally happy people as well. Forgiveness is a big part of having that happiness. I agree that it isn’t just forgive and forget, but it is important to forgive and let go. Well put. Thanks. God bless, Maria from Delight Directed Living

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